My fear is that if I get to the point that I am willing to be the WAS, will I ever want to R and put myself out there again?
I have the same fear. After finally reaching that point, will I want to potentially subject myself to this amount of pain again with the same person? In my case, I can see trying again just for the sake of the kids and a complete family. Without kids, not sure.
Originally Posted By: Uphill
In my case I think I have a WAW with a WW mentality, if that is possible? Everything from BD until recently has been all me, me, me from her end. Shows all of the signs of a WW but at the same time has no other interest in another man? Very confusing...
The WAW and WW are similar, but if you read some of Sandi's threads about the WW, there are clear differences. The WW becomes very self-centered, starts acting sort of "crazy", totally out of the norm for her personality. Doing things and being around people that she has never shown an interest in before. Sort of like a party girl.
If your W is acting that way, then I would be cautious about assuming there is no OM. If there is, you certainly can't trust her to tell you about it. It may be someone she is interested in but hasn't become a full-fledged A yet. Personally, I would want to know, but not everyone thinks it makes a lot of difference in how you respond. But I would suggest you be on the lookout for signs, just in case.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
