Hanging in there

[lonelee]

Hello to you Photoka,

I am just reading the recent posts will read more when I have more time. I am looking forward to it.

My suggestion would be to not discuss some of your DB strategies with him in counseling session, however I do think that it is ok to be honest and say something to the affect of .. “had I known you wanted me to be in the other room with you I would have been happy to be there for a bit but I cannot read your mind to know what you might like or want me to do”. And from reading your post to you your thinking “ if I go in that room and sit by him that pursuing” … right… I play these games too! 

{Real coffee or the coffee from Lonelee’s post, I'd be ok with either one! …. Couldn't resist reposting this.. haha}

{And now that I am writing this down, I am realizing that it is probably good that H thinks I should sit by him while he is working. True, that is not quality time, and true, he isn't communicating with me, but if he wants me near him that is a good thing, right?}
Yes I think it is positive and we have to recognize the smallest of steps first. Especially if this a change from his past behavior.

Now let me ask would it have been a 180 for you to just go in that room and be next to him while he was working? Or feel more like pursuing to you?

Good luck to you.