This is strangely similar to my situation. Only difference is my W was the caregiver until her MLC and A. It truly blows. Sorry you are in the mess you are in and I hope you find peace in whatever decision you make. Just be sure you are making the decision with a clear head and not out of hurt or anger. Sometimes we need a good deal of time to process the insanity.
M: 36 yo W: 36 yo S: 7 D: 4 M: 13 yrs BD: 6/14 (??) PE Confirmed 7/15 (4 months) The road to recovery starts now