And, I agree that we are all in denial at first. Further, it is hard to become the WAS if we are standing for our M, so maybe we remain a bit in denial for very long. I know that I can only act sort of like a WAH. Maybe I'm still too much in denial for my own good. Sort of the DB paradox: stand for your marriage is a noble thing, but to stand for your marriage you must get yourself to the point where you want to walk. Yikes!
Right. It's quite a paradox. To save your M, you need to reach a point where you almost don't want to save your M. And then I guess hope you have the morals and inner strength to realize the whole point of this journey, and stick it out, IF you get the chance to R. Everything in these situations seems backwards from normal logic, but I suppose we have to follow what has been proven to work.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
