MLC SEPERATED AND NO CHANGE PART 3

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H is pretty bent on D at this point. I did tell him I don't want D but he said he wants to get things "rolling" but there is no OW. I think there is but that is neither here nor there now.

I have heard of the mediating but I thought you had to settle by filing divorce first.

No, often meditation precedes the filing. It is getting the heavy lifting on the issues done, so that when it comes time to file, there is little left to resolve through the courts. Once the courts are involved, things can be more expensive. It also allows you to arrange things for the separation while you work on the D.

A lot of couples go through mediation, and then filing is just a matter of submitting the petition & checking off the necessary court requirements (like parenting counseling when there are kids), and waiting out the required wait time. Makes for a less stressful, painful process at a time when things are hard enough.

The good side is that mediation, especially w/ someone trained in MC can lead to reconciliation, although that shouldn't be the reason you seek it out.