Help for LBH who has a WW (new thread)

[asitis]

Wow, such a cynic Cadet

And by in denial, I assume you mean that the original LBS remains in denial when they are told that this is the path rather than the LBS & WAS remain in denial when the roles switch.

I think we're on the same page about the detach until you become the pursued rather than the pursuer. If that is WA, I guess I'll buy that, but we have read the D is not the answer chapter, so we don't make very good WASs do we?

I was adding the wrinkle that Sandi adds about focusing on becoming attractive as a man rather than as an H, and making that a big part of your thinking about what to do or say.

And, I agree that we are all in denial at first. Further, it is hard to become the WAS if we are standing for our M, so maybe we remain a bit in denial for very long. I know that I can only act sort of like a WAH. Maybe I'm still too much in denial for my own good. Sort of the DB paradox: stand for your marriage is a noble thing, but to stand for your marriage you must get yourself to the point where you want to walk. Yikes!