have i been making mistaked too long. part 2

[Huddy]

Take some time out here. Drugs is a non starter. That needs to stop pronto. Think about your kids. You need to just have some time alone to calm down. Don't worry, we've all done it, but cry to yourself, not your W. Re-read sandi2's rules. She was a WAS, so she knows better than most what turns a woman back on.

The whole point of this, as I see it, is that your W has decided to go. She no longer feels any need for you. That isn't the end. You need to entice her back. She needs to see the person she wanted all those years ago. Things get tough, circumstances and people change, but you need to show her that leaving you isn't the answer. You need to be the better person. Confident, strong, happy. You'll see a change in your W as you display these tendencies. Watch out for the trap I fell into; misunderstanding your W's anger for defeat. the anger is when she is losing control and you are getting back up off the floor.

Keep going. Re-read the rules. Get the book - skip past the first section and get into strategies. Look at other people's sitch's and see the mistakes (hey, I've made dozens!) and don't do anything again, that didn't work first time. Did crying and pleading work? No - so don't do it again.