I needed to hear that. It's deeply disrespectful for her to treat me like that. I have to care enough about myself to not support her if she's acting this way. She is definitely wayward. If it's ever to get better, it's going to take time.
I just re-read sandi's "rules". I'm following all of them. She is supposed to get a job and pay off our debts while staying in the house. If she doesn't do that, then things are going to get ugly fast.
I'm giving it a month or so to see what happens, but I'm planning on everything I can expect to go wrong at this point and making plans to deal with it.
She is very probing, so if I am unavailable, she will ask why. It's almost like she wants me to prove that I don't really love her. She wants to see me pull away. I can be distant and unavailable as all get out if I want to be. Maybe it's time to test that out.
M 16y , T 18y , 3 Kids 7/14 ILYBINILWY 8/14 Takes off rings 5/15 OM, S PA 8/15 10/15 A new hope. Rumbles of Reconciliation. 11/15 I can have what I want. What do I want?
