You are putting the cart before the horse. Which is something you seem to keep trying to do...

At this point, you stop snooping. If he is talking to ow, mylie cyrus, or the man in the moon, he is. That is his business. Not yours. Let him live his life however he chooses to.

I havent seen anything from you saying that he has stated he wants to work on rebuilding anything. All you report is him still trying to place the blame for this on you.

Please tell me if i am wrong about that because that can change the advice...

One thing i learned was that i could have turned myself into the most beautiful, most perfect person on earth and it would have mattered none until my ex was ready to stop trying to blame me for everything.

IF you get to actual piecing...that is when you will work to rebuild trust, mostly on your end, but on his also. At this point, you need to stop giving him reasons to make you the bad guy (ie hacking his accounts).

Trust is the easiest thing to lose and the hardest thing to regain in any relationship.

Have you read DB or DR?


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox