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[sandi2]

Have you stated any sort of boundaries to her? Would there be any consequences if she dishonored your boundaries? Although you may not be able to see it, by reading what you write....it appears as if you are just waiting around to see what she does. It gives her the message that she can go have her fling, and you'll be keeping the home fires lit till she decides to come back.

Your D17 is right in saying WW is playing all of you. However, just for future references, I have to also say that D17 kind of played you, too. You asked her what time WW said she had to be home, and then you over-rode what WW previously told her and allowed her to come in later. If me, I would have been majorly pizzed at my H!

So, back to you and WW.......how much do you think she worries about losing you? Do you think it has even crossed her mind what you may be doing, while she's off to see OM? Are you still sleeping together? You need to stay in the master bedroom. I just wondered, are you still having sex with her? Just trying to get a clearer picture of what's going on behind closed doors.

You don't have do unfriend her FB, but I advise you to stop looking at it. It clearly upsets you. One of my adult children went through what you are experiencing (only didn't have the opportunity of learning about OP until after being told to leave). He saw that stuff thrown in his face every time he looked at her FB. So, why look? You can't detach as long as you are looking. Be your own BFF.

I believe that there maybe issues with her EA. I told her today that obviously there was something wrong because if everything was fine she would be gone.

Come on, Mavrik. You were fishing, and she knew it. Stop doing that sort of stuff.

I told her she is gonna regret her decisions one day and she told me that she would have to deal with it then. I do love her but she is making me hate her more and more everyday. Our kids d26 and d17 are so pissed at her. She is doing things to turn them against her.

There is no difference in what you are telling her here ^^ and trying to reason with her. You can't nice her back. You can't preach her back. You can't guilt her back. She is not logical. You can't reason her back.

If she really is making you hate her more everyday, then stop showing her how desperately you want her. Yes, she very well may turn her children against her. However, you cannot control their feelings. Every thing you said to her is true! She simply shrugs it off and continues to do what she wants, b/c she is led by her emotions and addiction to the EA.