Thanks cat.
No more snooping. The last conversation of the night was: He said to me was, "What should be the consequences if you hacked my accounts again". I responded that I didn't want to do that, that again, I was ashamed of doing that. I won't say I promise never to do it again (sarcastic sigh from him)...pause...because I know that promise probably doesn't mean much from me right now.
That's when the "You should have trusted me to work all this out myself. This kind of thing is why I don't think it will work. "
I didn't respond.
I wanted to say, I should have trusted you to keep chasing OW and planning to divorce me?
I know that's not helpful. Not really sure what else to say at this point.


Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?