My wife is on a mission to hate me and literally said she did. She thinks when I am with the kids that I am telling them things that make them upset which is not true. My kids want us back together and are hurting.
I am doing my best to 180 and detach. She is hard to understand and is up and down with her actions and reactions, although she is trying like crazy to be strong and is insistent that she and the kids are happier since moving to her Moms. I know the kids are not.
Now, she thinks and says everything is my fault as her friends are telling me she is saying. They don't understand her and her actions, yet know her mom and best friend are misguiding her and giving her a false hope of reality.
By accident I text something to her that was meant for my sister and it said that my wife is more concerned about what her mother feels and thinks than how the boys feel. . She responds to me that she is more concerned on how I treat my boys. I don't get it cause she always said I'm a great dad and father, so I don't know where this is coming from. She is hell bent that I'm evil and bad and blames me for her leaving and that I caused this. I accept my wrongs and failures.
Now she furious and now dictating where and when if I see the kids. I have been advised by many on the board and off to see an attorney. I was hoping not to do it because all our scars and secrets will be in the light, but more importantly I was trying to not go through this to spare the kids more hurt.
I felt backed into a corner and gave her 24 hours yesterday to make a decision on whether she still wants to work it out ourselves because we both can't afford attorney. She may think I am bluffing and won't do it, but I have to follow through otherwise she won't respect me.
