Hello

[714Dad]

let me clarify. rereading my post makes me think i was drunk.

okay, so saturday was my day with the girls. i planned a small dinner with some of her friends and my family that couldn't go to the 'real' party on sunday.

i was specific to call it a dinner and not a party. one of my friends brought a tiny cake for D6 and so we did have a party of sorts. 7 kids counting my D3 and D6. Two kids only showed up at the end.

we had hot dogs and beans and watermelon. i didn't give her any of 'my' presents as i was saving them for the official sunday party.

so yeah. my W called it a party and D6 even told her it was a dinner, not a party. W was still furious and the hate in her eyes was just so hard to see.

She's walking through the house looking at how i have their art up, or how it's clean, or how there's fresh paint on things, and she is all teary. She sees the stars on the ceiling and is just livid. she acts excited with the girls but just glares at me or says, "I hate you."

and if I didn't mention it D3 was very clingy and didn't want me to leave this morning when i dropped her off. she was very upset and wanted to stay with me. it's so hard to do this.

how can somebody get to the point in a low conflict marriage of being so full of resentment and anger that they will rend apart a healthy family to 'follow their career' or 'be independent'?

how can she feel so much dislike for me to do this to our family? a family that she always seemed to want?

two healthy, amazing, beautiful smart children. coming home to dinner being done, laundry done, car maintenance done, house projects worked on, etc. etc.

i used to make us all lunch and meet her at a park with the girls so she could see them and play with them in the middle of the day.

who is this person that i thought i knew that is now so different and so alien?

still so beautiful and smart and incredible to me.

why can't i just hate her and be done with it?