Also, talking about some friends who are struggling right now and I made a comment about she wants to work things out and has some ideas. He very cynically commented "like what? Counseling?" So I know he will never agree to that, even though my IC continues to tell me to try to get him to come in with me.
One thing I talked about with my IC when I was going... was the idea that just because you believe something is the solution doesn't mean your spouse does. The inverse is also true... how he would fix the problem doesn't mean it is the way you would.
Moral of the story is... don't be pigeon-holed into an idea that there is only one way to fix this problem. You don't have to convince him to go to counseling, but you do have to work with him to come to a solution. Realizing that sometime people can work on their relationship without "working on their relationship."
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
