Therapist in training who has had an interest in the topic for a while before taking the plunge. Obviously, I've also got a very strong incentive for employing that background to learn everything I can about M, gender roles, etc. Along the way, I've had training on spouse/R abuse, and one of the areas I've been thinking about working in is w/ male abusers. An underserved area that needs to be addressed if we are to cut down on the abuse.

All that said, please don't view me as a therapist. First, I'm not yet. Second, I'm not sitting down in the appropriate setting to gather the necessary info & develop the kind of relationship that is appropriate to giving that level of advise. Just want to err on the side of caution so that nobody takes what I say as if.

And V isn't a therapist, but in this area, I definitely defer to her. As someone who knows a good deal about this, I can tell you V knows her stuff and has a perspective and guidance that is hard to beat. I know she'll probably say something humble about just learning herself, but aren't we all & she has learned a lot through both educating herself and the school of hard knocks.


Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15