You know, Luke, here's what I think having gotten to know you over time. I think you have to see this play out. I think you have to know, deep in your heart, that you did all you could to save your marriage and keep your family intact.
I know for me, I needed to be able to say to my son, should he ask, that I did everything in my power.
That mindset helped me get over some of the really rough parts.
The way back for them is in reverse. We are the first to go, so, we are the last that they reconnect with fully.
This crisis, man, it wreaks havoc in them.
I also think it's important that you know what you want, what's negotiable and what isn't. But I also think that you need to be a bit flexible in some areas.
If I have learned anything through all of this, it's that some of the things I thought were so important, just aren't in the grand scheme of things.
Sometimes you have to take this one day at a time. Just keep walking in a forward direction.
Think about all the freakin stuff that has happened. That's an awful lot for her to sort through, on top of needing to figure out what brought her to crisis.
This is a long haul. You are doing wonderfully. I don't think you are ready to give up yet, so, I am going to keep pushing you along.
But please know that whatever you decide, I support you and I will be here for you in any way I can.
