H says OW is his business

[Painter]

See your own lawyer before you do anything. If you have proof of the affair, things might be very different than you H thinks they will turn out - depending on the laws in your state. Don't believe what he says - he is only acting in his own best interest, not yours. My H even tried to block my access to our marital home when he was having an affair. You can't trust him to be truthful or have any allegiance to you at all at this time.

I'm sorry about your kids. Your H's claim that they weren't mature enough to 'understand' is as ridiculous as my H's reason for why he didn't tell me about the EA (before it went to a PA): He figured I would flip out.