Very interesting exchange and good for you .... you are at a place you can be PMA regardless of what she is doing. That bit about "Call me" Then you answered in a playful tone ... thats a nice change up ... again .. another seed, you .... in a sense showed a little leg there.
Ya know .. I will admit when I started reading your sitch in the beginning I too thought to myself MLC, so many things just line up that way but I did not want to tell you as ... lets face it .. DB is tough enough and that would only complicate it early on. You and Heavy both .. similar in a many ways as I also think she has a MLCr on her hands.
If it is MLC, its much the same approach just longer ... good news right??!! lol. I will give you this advice as its something I learned and continue to still notice. PRESSURE ... thats basically the fuel for this, if they feel it, it sends them into a spin, in my case W just could not/can not handle pressure/stress well at all .. I realized pre BD stress was really getting to her in new ways .. this was the precursor.
So just think about that, and if you can sense she is stressed/pressured ... back off, if you are not in anyway involved in this ... grab a STFU smoothie and just listen. I do see she still shares things with you, the life line is there ... just know you can pick that up or choose not to depending on where you are. Be available but not to available .. I think you are dancing that line very very well.
You are absolutely the prize, and now you may very well be the lighthouse.
