Hey Luke. I chuckled at you telling your wife not to mind read. Yea, I did...fight me.
So, good thing you didn't really react to that tee shirt, yea? Not that it ties into mind reading at all...in any way..hee hee.. Im having fun here.
Seriously, though..the forgetfulness is all part of the crisis. It really does mess with their heads. My xh doesn't remember a lot of things from that time. Kinda scary, right?
I know you are concerned about what this marriage will ultimately look like. It will be whatever the two of you forge together...taking parts of the old and the new marriage and the old and new of the two of you. Wherever it lands, you will make a decision from a place of strength. Til then, keep on keepin on and always embrace the possibilities.
I thought you might love that one! In my defense I never have been guilty of mind reading, my Jedi skills are a gift and from time to time I have used them ... haters gonna hate.
Well ... I did react to the T-shirt ... but was a far cry away from the way I probably would have reacted this time last year. I am thankful that it did not become a bigger issue than it was, if anything I think it was a positive as W came away expressing she was thankful I viewed it the way I did. That being said I will NEVER tell her I discovered whose shirt it actually was as she is the type who would file this away and use it as an 'example' for any future events.
As far as the M goes .. and what it will actually look like. Yes I am concerned ... greatly. This SSM issue that we had prior, its just not something I want to deal with in M 2.0, and I am torn currently between being patient and allowing the process to just play itself out .... or taking a line straight out of SSM by MWD and just telling W this is not going to work out for me and going ahead and pulling the trigger.
^^^ This I have given thought to, one of the big mistakes I made in the old M was not letting my needs be known. This being said I do understand she is not currently in a place where I can do this just yet. I have decided to go through the process, we have about a month more left on out Post sessions ... then Holidays will arrive. At the moment I intend to just see what happens, open mind approach. I have done very well at meeting her current needs, as I continue to work on myself. As I said her job just started up so I am curious as to where the M and myself will fall in her priorities, something that has been discussed lightly .... I can not say I am very optimistic, parts of me think I allowed her back to easily ... again .. time will tell.... but a SSM is not something I will be able to live with nor desire to, it could ultimately be the final deal killer for me. And as you said uR, this decision will be from a place of strength.
