Not Confused Anymore 2!!!

[Joe46]

Thank you V and Sandi and AnotherStander!! You made some great points. I will remember these things. I have been practicing some already. Thank you for your advice. It is much appreciated.

That's not to say you can't have a relationship with your W at some point in the future, but your old M is dead and gone.

If in relationship, you mean co parenting, we will have that. We will NOT have anything further from that. I am not sitting around hoping my WW comes out of her fog and wants to come home. She is welcome to do whatever with whomever!! There is alot that has happened in all the years of my marriage that I just endured. Now since she has moved on, I do not have to endure that anymore. And I don't want to be with a lier, cheater, thief and betrayer.

She is in a lot of pain right now. Try to be mindful of that in how you treat her. She's suffering, you can easily make it better or make it worse.

This I have thought about alot. I ask God to help me forgive her every night. I know in time I will be able to forgive her and I do better each day. It is not easy to feel sorry for someone that has hurt you this bad. It is even harder when you see the hurt the children go through.