Time for a quick update. Last week was total mayhem, and I didn't have 2 minutes to myself all week. I much prefer my days at work going quickly. Today has been busy as well, but I've got a little break in the action, so I figured it was a good time to post.
All is quiet on the western front. We got D18's senior pictures back for review on Friday. They turned out really cute, and I've chosen a good photo for the yearbook. Quite pleased there. BTW, the one I posted on the alt is not the same... the one I chose was much better.
While my hair stylist was attaching foil to my head on Friday evening, I got a call from D21. I guess things got really ugly between her BF's stepdad and the rest of them, so they were in the process of moving over to his dad's house. They're at the shore until tomorrow, and she leaves for school on Saturday, so it's not too bad for her. Her BF has another week of work left and he's okay.
Here's the potential problem with remarrying, folks. His mom has been married to stepdad (who I will call SD here) for 10 years. I guess he's a guy with an angry undercurrent and has explosive episodes. Her BF told me when I met him a couple years ago that he didn't care for him because he felt he didn't treat his mom the way he would expect a husband to treat his wife. I've stored that away.
Well, I guess they were all loading the car up Friday night for a 5 am departure to Wildwood. SD was mowing the lawn and accused one of them of scratching his truck. My D21 says she didn't see anyone close to it, but it was possible. Still, no one fessed up to it because he was screaming loud enough for neighbors to come out of the house. Her BF came home from work and SD lit into him. The BF was calm and rational, chose his words carefully and did not resort to the name calling that the SD did. In the end, SD looked at his mom and said, "He is not welcome in this house any longer, and you need to make a choice: him or me."
Sigh.
So the BF told his mom, who was crying, "I won't force you to choose between us. But I won't be back in the house again."
Oh, SD also told his sister that he wouldn't feed the cat while they were gone and she'd come home to a dead cat. WTF? Who says that?
I know full well that what he said to BF's mom were fighting words. I told both of them, "You realize he's being an unreasonable a*hole to put your Mom in the position of being the bad guy, right?"
Anyway, when D21 was alone with me she said, "I know I used to give you crap for not dating, but I have to say thank you for putting all of us in a position not to have to do this. I love you for that." All I could say is, "you were and are worth it, and you're welcome."
Blech. I did tell them to do really nice stuff for his mom and give her a little TLC because she's going to have to make a decision before too long. The good news is that it was HER house before they got married. Hopefully, they have a prenup.
My guess is that her BF will either spend the holidays at his dad's house or come to mine. Yay!?!?!
On a funny note, I think I might have mentioned that my D18 loves her iPad? She uses it for her talk chat app and when not in school, watches netflix (she loves movie trailers) or you tube. Most of the stuff she watches is child friendly - like the Grinch or watching animal videos. Before we got in the shower, she was watching a clip of a lion chasing some other poor animal in the desert in Africa. She got out of the shower before me, and was standing at my vanity watching with her towel wrapped around her when I walked out. I got her clothes and then returned to the bathroom to see her hunched over really close to the iPad watching AVIDLY. So I scooted her over to see and was stunned to see her watching 2 horses "doing it" on youtube. Hung like a horse is definitely not an understatement! Needless to say, I put the kibbosh on that, cleaned out her history and said, "Yuck! You need to stick to the grinch, okay?"
It still makes me laugh. No wonder I'm crazy.
Well, better sign off. We're getting a thunderstorm here at work, and that means we have a good chance at losing power. I'm off!
Hope everyone has a good week.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
