WW is in infatuation not love, it will be transitory. There is no way you can insist on IC and MC would be a waste of cash until she is ready to recommit.
Bossiness isn't always abusive, but ranting can be. If WW is a great mom and before this then it's most likely this isn't in her character, it's behavioural, possibly situational. Of course once you establish your boundaries this will escalate as WW will try to establish control again.
Be gentle and firm as this is the nature I see in HeavyD. Your IC sounds truly grounded and directive, really trustworthy.
HeavyD, there is some amazing work going on and you are such a tremendous mom. When WW starts to rant, try the Really! answer and walk away. "You may be right" and "there is something in what you say".
You might also try the swamp with admin strategy. Every text or call to doctors, either forward or note it to her., just marked FYI. Rang docs no reply FYI. Still no reply doctors FYI. Yet again appointment changed FYI. Bought blue sticking plasters FYI. Etc. after you put something on Calendar. New appoint on cal FYI.
My WH complained I wasn't buying the food he liked, so I filled the fridge with white bread, apple juice, the 'right' bacon, scotch eggs and other junk. After a few weeks I was throwing it away but I kept replacing, each time I bought it was more bread FYI etc. After two weeks he told me to stop. Be careful what you wish for WH, you may get it.
Personally, I don't think WW is ready to D, there are signs of distrust with OW. If you want to make OW stuff a boundary you can do so.
It's probably great news there are 19 adults at the party , sounds a great adult kid ratio and there are bound to be some new people to chat with about schools, teachers, books, learning. I would go armed with lots of open questions and go with the flow a little. Bring out the charmer and act as if.
The time will pass quickly in a busy environment too. There will be lots to do and there are always kids to play with, your S will enjoy himself hugely if he is prepared for the party.
It will be fun, time to look great too, hair do, and sassy style. And a glam perfume, smell like a delicious treat. Go GAL with this, breathe, relax, smile and enjoy your children Outshine any scuzzy you can think of, time to show off HeavyDs new attitude. Go be a partner only a fool would leave, glow with joy and love for your kids from deep in your spirit. Let it be.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 08/10/1506:16 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
