I slept on it and sent a text this morning that said, “I feel bad for the way we left things. I was hurting like never before and I wanted you to feel my pain. So sorry.” I can’t believe it was all over moving her clothes but she never let up all Fri evening. I said I’ll move them back etc. and just more spew, Sat morning was even bigger anger and spew and then I pushed her about OM. Her, “I know you’ve had an affair on me and I have proof!” She has no proof I never have and I realized she was in an affair and I was getting the blame. I was devastated. I feel we should have been legally separated or divorced first and not behind my back.
If I had to guess about the clothes I think she was shocked to see that I was trying to move on. Now that I’m detached a little more I can see I was putting up with her staying out 1 then 3 and recently 5 nights a week so why would I change? She was getting bolder with staying out and had gotten bolder with OM by bringing him to a place we both go to and where the owner is my friend. Maybe she wanted to get caught IDK. S25 said he can’t look at her in the eye and that was before the affair. You could say I was a horrible husband (I’m no saint) but since she turned 50 she’s cut out of her life her brothers, her parents except for mother’s day and Xmas and now 2 years later our family. The apology text was more for me than her I don’t approve of what she is doing.
