The abuse was not all of the time - when the times were good, they were really good, 90%, when they were bad, we argued and she put me down, criticized me, etc... 10%.
It just seemed to slowly get worse over the years and of course the B drop the was icing on the cake. The level of entitlement was/is supreme.
I have insisted on her getting therapy but she has refused. I am in therapy and have been since all of this started. I have learned a lot about myself and why I have allowed myself to be treated this way. It's a great way to get an objctive opinion.
For my whole life, I have wanted a family. I cherised that idea and strove to get it. As a gay couple, it was not an easy thing to do, but we did it. We got married 3 times over the years to meet the various changing laws of the states. And now after all of this, after 20 years, I never loved you bomb drop. I am in love with this other person. Boom.
I filed for Separation, she immediately turned it around to D. So, yes, maybe flipping it to stop the waiting game may be beneficial. I would at least feel like I am in control of the process.
I mean this has gone on almost a year now. Seriously.
