Emotional abuse in the fact that has consistently criticized me, put me down, bullied me, and in front of friends etc... For a long time, I thought that was what marriage was about, working through issues. Her mother called me a "simp" years ago. Her aunt alled me a "Saint" for putting up with her. She has the family reputation of being a bossy and domineering person. Of course, now her family is 100% on her side.
A few years ago, I did tell her I would not accept being treated disrespectfully anymore, especially in front of others. She did agree that she was treating me badly and behaved better for a while. Until Bomb drop.
L said no worries about kid issue. 50/50. She can scream about it all she wants.
No counseling, no belief that anything is wrong with her. No empathy, nothing. She has not changed or accepted responsibility.
So you are really doing this just for the kids? What is there redeeming about your W otherwise?
I'm not sure, but in your sitch I might push the D myself and if she wants to reconcile, have the list of conditions under which you'd consider it. She may respond to the strong man who shows he won't keep taking her sh*t any longer and is not willing to play her game. You have shown that you have the responsibility, caring, listening, and heart part down pat. You are good H material. But even if that works, will her coming back produce a healthy, sustainable M? What will get you there?
Just thinking aloud.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
