When I began this journey and it was said that the MLC'er has a really bad time of it, that it is not all fun and fluffy in their world, I did not believe it, I just saw the ow, the going out, the toys and living it up - but it really is true, they are chasing the fantasy that they blew their life apart for and he now has so many issues and problems as a result of it.
I too did not believe this, I think partly becuase having ones world flipped upside down you can only see/feel the pain as you try to figure out wtf just happened and it felt like my MLCr was oblivious and living up this new lifestyle chasing that fun-rush.
But now as she has started coming out, looking at all the damage that was caused, and all the baggage that follows ... its just a tragic thing for certain and I can see very easily how some never come out of it ... because facing this destruction must be something terrible.
