Not Confused Anymore 2!!!

[Joe46]

Good Morning! Well I am heading to meet STBXW tomorrow to pick up the kids. I am so excited to pick them up. D12 sounds really excited to come home. I think S7 is also excited. We had to have a little talk because STBXW told him to tell me he wanted to spend one month here and one month in CA during the school year. SERIOUSLY!!! Lawyer told me no sane judge would go for that. It is sad that she is trying to manipulate S7 because he is young.

I am struggling with the kids and their involvement with affair partner. If anyone on here has experience with this, I would love some advice. S7 is young and does not understand. To me, STBXW is sick in the head for bringing him to pick up the kids. And also sick to be involving them in her affair. And involving this guys little girl. It is not like we have been separated for awhile and than they came into their lives. Or even given it a year for the divorce to sink in. This all started while still married. These kids had hope that their mom would come home and were thrown into a relationship with a stranger and his daughter. For all anyone knows, this guy could still be married.

I am also dealing with STBXW parents putting everything on me. Now they have stepson 24 attacking me for nothing. Their complaint is I borrowed a bunch of money from STBXW grandma and them. STBXW did borrow some money from her grandma when we were in some financial trouble. But they are making it sound like a ton of money. And I know nothing about borrowing from her parents. I guess that is their way of justifying their daughter destroying her marriage and all her children's emotional well being. I can hear and see the hurt in these older kids. Luckily stepson24 is the only one taking his hurt out on me. The other kids are just hurting for me, younger kids and themselves. Stepson 24 is really good at focusing his anger else where. Any excuse to complain about someone makes things easier for himself.

I have a good therapist for both D12 and S7 to speak to. I visited with her the other day for a long time. She is also going to see me to help me deal with all this. It will take great patience and understanding when S7 mentions the affair partner and his daughter. I am very angry with STBXW and her OM. OM daughter is just a innocent young girl in all this. It baffles me about the amount of pain all our kids have to go through and these wayward spouses don't care.