FIDO - Changing the Rules - Pt 3

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PeterV2,

We do sound like we're in similar boats. I appreciate you taking the time to read my sitch! Were you exhausted when you got done?

I got a lot of crumbs this weekend. We had a blowup Saturday evening where I finally said that the cycle needs to stop and the best way to do that is for me to just remove myself from the situation. The cycle where she screams that she hates me and I ruined her life, and then when I say it's time for me to move on, she says loves me and either begs me not to go or she gets angry at me for "giving up". She actually apologized to me this weekend for her abusive behavior. Her words. I can tell that she's terrified I'll leave. She should be.

But it's still not backed up with action. OM is still first in her head. They did not get the opportunity to talk and get the "closure" that she wanted when he was in town last week, so she wants another chance at closure next time...that indeterminate time when he ends up back in town. Could be 6 - 12 weeks from now. Apparently she expects me to just sit around in limbo indefinitely while she figures herself out. If think she was already working a job where she made a full-time livable income, she would have kicked me out months ago. I love feeling like I'm being kept around for my paycheck.

Short term I will probably seek a roommate situation, but your rental idea is intriguing. As you probably surmised, I live in a college town, and rental space in this area is at a premium. Buying a duplex and renting out one side not only makes sense financially, but dovetails nicely with one of my life 2.0 objectives, which is real estate investing.