their vote values-beliefs - i dont think they were necessarily that different from our own. this is my point really. that they are being driven by their feelings, which disagree with their core values and so they are insane with conflict.
Smoth - you have been so much better. Remember that. Actually I am not suggesting that we do become the WAS. All i am saying is that I can relate now, but I think I have also said this somewhere - I am sooooo glad it aint me. I/we can move on with a clear conscience. Even more than a clear conscience Smoth.
They had the A. We could've walked away at BD, medicated etc and entered another R then with a clear conscience. We went the extra mile. Once you get to that point of "open to R, but not waiting" - then you're done. "Open" here is also inline with Z's post above about being weary of R with WAS.
Damn, thats so true. I can imagine my WAW playing the R card when it suits her. My problem with that is being really skeptical of her motives. Also, the "spell" she had cast on me has I think been broken. I have said this earlier (I think to V), the qualities in my W that I was most attracted to, are the very same ones that she has blown apart. So what's left? Is there enough left to mount up against that huge stinking pile of crap that this woman has shown that she is not only 100% capable of cheating on me, she will lie to my face and laugh, blah, blah, blah.
Its your call Smothy. I have been begging you for a longtime now to put yourself first. I honestly dont think your going to get that 11th hour reprieve, but you still dont want to leave a bad taste in his mouth, or yours for that matter.
So my advice would be - compound secret with a secret. You were secretly trying to win him back by being "light and breezy". Now secretly cancel the first secret, dont think about trying to win him back, look after Smothy, move on to your new post and until then continue to act "light and breezy."
hows that sound?
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
