Z- i am not saying that we become the WAS at all. Actually what I am saying, or at least meaning, is that we are not even the WAS, the M is over, it was killed the day they dropped the bomb (In my case anyway), and even still I recognize the force pushing back on me, to resist taking that leap - across to the other side - and just entertain the idea of being in a R with someone else.

But, now, I can. And there are all sorts of complexes and guilt associated with it. Not to mention that it took a dedicated effort in the first place. So I guess what I am saying, is that I can "relate". And given the enormity of the difference between my "transgression" and her slaughter, I am not surprised anymore how angry she was for months after BD.


M: 6 T: 12
Kids: 2,4
BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015
EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015