Hi, yesterday I drove to see my kids and spent a fun afternoon together.
I needed to vent as my wife and her mom are acting like best friends in high school or a sick fantasy of a couple only where I have been replaced by her mom.
Wife is so into herself and acting like the kids cries and hurt are non existent. First, it really kills me to see my kids hurting and her acting as if it's ok no biggie. Secondly, WTH is she feeling and thinking?
I am now seeing more and more people that are wife's friends telling me that wife and Wife's mom are so enmeshed and that the mom is making them mad that they want to tell wife it's not good and also tell the mom to back off. They all see that the mom is making harder for me get my back together again and that the mom should stop. I am not asking wife's friends...they are telling me.
I want my family back. I feel like wife is not the loving lady I knew, but an ugly, uncaring, stranger that I am not liking.
I appreciate the advice from everyone and I thought I can win (for a lack of a better word) my family back with my changes and wife see's it, but refuses to trust the changes she see's and unwilling to risk the safety and stability that she says her mom is providing. What a blow to me cause I thought when you love someone and have kids you push through the thick and thin and good and bad together.
PLEASE help me in getting my family back together and also how to stay course. I don't want to give up, but it's getting harder not easier on this journey seeing the hurt and pain my boys are going through and also the ugliness wife is showing.
