Detach and Move Forward Small Steps

[Azzork]

Ghost -

Any time I start feeling like that, it's because I'm being IMPATIENT Rrelax; take some cleansing breaths. Don't worry about the future - just worry about TODAY.

Patience, Ghost.

[ATPeace]

I so want to send this me to my wife ....... W please give D a huge cuddle and kiss and tell her I love her very much she is beautiful I know we cannot change the past nothing can make that any better ....I deeply regret how I made you feel so lonely.... please tell the older ones too that they are great kids and that daddy loves them very much I will be there for all of you and I will make you all feel so special please give me that chance xx

[ATPeace]

I did not send this I just had to out it somewhere

[Azzork]

Write it, post it....whatever.

Just don't send it.

Read your post from yesterday. Sounded like you had a lot of PMA and good feelings. Just relax and get through this patch of despair.

[ATPeace]

Yesterday really was not a good day and today has not been much better it is the whole thoughts of W being in the house and not being with her and the thoughts of W moving out at some point and selling the house is a worse..... not seeing her when she decides it is time to sell is going to kill me

He the feck do I stay strong for my children my babie is only 2 ....my W must rally have been unhappy to want to be a single mum to the baby with 3 older kids as well

I do not know what I can do so much for moving on this thread is me being depressed can I rename it

[tkdmme]

ghost,

Im feeling the same as you today. Yesterday was not too bad but today has been hell. I cant stop thinking about my W. I love her passionately and would give anything to have her back. I have been working the DR and the rules but it has been the hardest thing I have ever done.

I don't know if I have it in me to keep it up. Also, ive been crying again. I thought that I had moved past that stage and here it is again.

I know it don't help, but I know exactly how you feel.

[ATPeace]

Thank you for posting I do not think that anything is going to help me at the moment and I am sure you are feeling much the same ....I lost my father last year and the grief I felt from that loss was not a touch on this

Somehow I have to find a way through this but I do not know how

[tkdmme]

Me too. I wish there were some button I could push so that I wouldn't care anymore. I don't want this for my family. My kids are worried. My parents are worried. BTW my father has pancreatic cancer and is not doing to well.

It has helped me a little to have found this site.

The kids start school tomorrow and we will have to work together tonight in getting them ready for it.

Hang in there and keep posting.

[Vapo]

Ghost, Tkdmme,

I feel for you guys and I know what you are saying. I've been there. It is OK to cry, nothing to be ashamed of. You guys have been in this 2-3 months only, it will take a couple of months before it starts to get better. But trust me, it will get better. If you are feeling in the dumps, do not hesitate to seek medical help, the meds can take the edge of the whole situation.

The trick is to take it one day at a time. It is without a doubt one of the hardest things one can go trough. You have to find your inner peace and it does take time. Don't be hard on yourself.

Exercise helps and when you start to get in shape it also helps the self image.

If you are religious it helps to turn to the higher powers.

You can always come here and rant & vent. No one will judge you here and we understand...

[Solo15]

Yeah guys, I totally feel it too. All the time. Vapo is really right about working out. I started consistently lifting weights about a month ago and it's been a huge help. The weights are honest. You can trust them. You get stronger. You look better. It's really good for your brain chemistry, and in the long run you be proud of how you look. Highly recommend it.

And also, for the first time in my life, I'm thinking about meds to take the edge off. I don't see any shame in it. Sometimes things are just too much to handle.

My heart goes out to you.