I told her I didn't want to end up like her... depressed, unfulfilled and disapponted in life and everyone. Hiding from a half marriage in a gym or for a time relying on a 3rd party.
I wanted to be happy, be in a full marriage where I was involved both emotionally and physically. I did not want to end up looking for consolation with a pro or OW. I was 48 and wanted what remained of my life to be normal and in general happy. I was a good guy and saw who I was and who I was becoming and thought I deserved better than this. Whatever relationship I was going to get involved in had to be the full package, the real deal.
Right now each one of us had control of their own lives as individuals but marriage wise she had a say.
I also accepted the gift, thanked her and told her I was returning to our bed. I had not done anything to be exiled for so long and had as much right as her and ended it by saying that I do not know how this was going to end but arguing over bedspace and gifts was not the answer.
We went to bed had some small talk about events and our son and fell asleep.
The next morning...
She woke up as usual before me, then did I but come her time to go to the gym she was still doing things around the house and then began to move my stuff from the main bathroom to our private one in the master bedroom where we slept. Unexpected.
As I left for my trip I thanked her (she began to tell me not to start) and I interrupted her by saying I appreciated she was still here and it meant a lo to me and began to leave. As I turned round to close the door she was in the doorway and came up and gave me a peck on the lips and wished me a nice trip. It was not smooth as when things were good but I am NOT complaining. For the first time in years I was speechless. Too much too sudden.
I will never understand women but now feel more pressure to not c.o.c.k. it up.
I still wonder how the change as I do not feel as if I exactly did anything special or mindblowing and am sure I broke a few rules here.
I know that some other things i did do were done thanks to DB rules so once again appreciate the advice. If it hadnt been for DB I would have done all the wrong things for the right reasons.
