He went completely dark for a while from his WAW (I don't think they were married)
Also - do not send the letter! Keep it and write as much as you need to in order to help you but do not give it to her. Even if you say it's not a plea it sure sounds like one to her. If she wants to R she knows where to find you.
When she comes over to get her stuff have plans made. Be dressed up, smelling good, have plans so that you don't have to linger around
