New marriage over pt3--filed for divorce

[Aj8]

I still say don't send it. I believe you feel this is "going all in". You're pushing your last chips into the center in a take it or leave it, last ditch effort to convince her to change her mind. I'm guessing she won't. Then what? You've basically undone all the progress you made over the past few months.

But that's just my opinion.

In your mind, if she doesn't change her mind after this letter, are you assuming that it means you're done for good and it's time to move to the next girl?

Azzork , my reasoning for this letter is not as a final chance to get back together but for her to know where I stand so if she ever in the future has thoughts about possible R then she'll know where i stand. Also, if she doesn't ever want a R at least I got to say goodbye In a heartfelt way . I know it won't change her mind and it won't make it easier for me if she rejects it which she will but I never explained myself and this I feel is my last chance

[asitis]

Understand. But will waiting at least a week after she comes by make a difference? You may change your mind (maybe just on the wording) based on the vibe you get from that or a bit of time.

[Azzork]

Aj -
I understand what you are saying about reasoning.

If you were her and received this letter, what would your reaction be?

[Aj8]

Asitis , it's my last chance to contact her , once she moves out fully she's gone as she already has "disappeared" from my life . She doesn't want me home for her final move of her things so a letter is the only way I can "talk"

Azzork, if I read it, it would tell me that he's owned up to some things he did wrong and appreciate the words , there's no begging or telling her how she feels just me saying how i appreciate her and thank her for 7 years of bliss for me

[Aj8]

Forgot to mention I wrote this letter last week , so I've had time to think if I should send it or not .

[Aj8]

Such a busy weekend with friends , did some shooting , movie, bbque , drinks , etc...yet all I could think of is how I want my wife , thought of all our trips /times together . Friends see me as smiling but my head is spinning and sad , sigh this week she moves out our cats , another sad chapter for me , then I'll be utterly alone

[T384]

Look up Thornton's threads.

He went completely dark for a while from his WAW (I don't think they were married)

Also - do not send the letter! Keep it and write as much as you need to in order to help you but do not give it to her. Even if you say it's not a plea it sure sounds like one to her. If she wants to R she knows where to find you.

When she comes over to get her stuff have plans made. Be dressed up, smelling good, have plans so that you don't have to linger around

[Aj8]

Look up Thornton's threads.

He went completely dark for a while from his WAW (I don't think they were married)

Also - do not send the letter! Keep it and write as much as you need to in order to help you but do not give it to her. Even if you say it's not a plea it sure sounds like one to her. If she wants to R she knows where to find you.

When she comes over to get her stuff have plans made. Be dressed up, smelling good, have plans so that you don't have to linger around

Thanks T0324,
She won't see me , she won't come to the apartment if I'm home (has come back three times for her stuff this will be the last) she hasn't nor does she want to see me for the last 2+ months . I'll be at work , as she planned it that way .

On the letter it's been 3 months she doesn't know how I feel as we've had no contact , this is actually my goodbye if she never wants to R which is the way it's headed

[Aj8]

Tomorrow is the big day , her final move and taking our cats--possibly also the last time she contacts me via texts ...also still debating on leaving the letter at the house for her to read. Been a hard couple days , GAL'd a lot but feel so lonely and lost w/o her.
After tommorow I'll never hear from her again

[asitis]

Tomorrow is the big day , her final move and taking our cats--possibly also the last time she contacts me via texts ...also still debating on leaving the letter at the house for her to read. Been a hard couple days , GAL'd a lot but feel so lonely and lost w/o her.
After tommorow I'll never hear from her again

Hang in there. I hear you on how hard this has been & is going to be.

And, you really just don't know if you will never hear from her again. You really don't. It is definitely healthy to go on with your life as if she wont. Still, don't write the epitaph on this quite yet.

Good luck w/ tomorrow. I hope you have mobilized your support network (besides us) to help you through this stage. If you haven't, now is the time to put them on alert and ask for their help.