Look I'm not worried about seeing myself in your wife's behaviours. That is why I am here, to learn how to do things differently. Like your wife, I did the nice, loving approachable partner after having an emotional spew. My "nice" response was often two fold, one was I felt infinitely better at releasing my pent up emotion (often days and days of leand up, the pressure valve would be off, my anxiety released) and lots guilt at having treated my partner so poorly and having behaved outside my values.
And no you don't sound nit-picky. It is always difficult to see the lack of congruence between how things are at home, and how out partners behaviour in front of others. My ex is seen by the whole community we lived as mr nice guy, mr amazing -look at what he has overcome (his parapeligia - being in a wheelchair). IF only they knew he ended our relationship because I had a mental health breakdown.
Glad to hear that the weekend went by with little incident.
Im feeling sad for you and kids that the summer break is over!
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Yes I am not surprised that she has spat the dummy at you ( I mean your bike not your wife). They like a little love after doing a days work. Your average speed is very good for riding a donkey. God what you could do on something with some carbon on it!!! Keeping going with this hobbie. Any events in your local area you could do?
