hold on! - 11

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I haven't served yet but actually the delivery itself is less than important. The content is more important together with space, can you get the kids away for a couple of days around the service

Make things easier in house. WW is in spew mode, and frankly the knob may up to rant mode. You are taking away her cake and it may anger her. A few days peace for your children, perhaps texts. That isn't being cowardly or not having brass ones, it's common sense and protective. Leaving you to handle WW without concerns for the children.

If WW spews at the table in front of the kids, "I can see why you might think that" then "please pass the peas". She is trying to bait you into "I told you so". If so "I hear you WW, and we can discuss this later".

Thanks V
I guess the question is - if it would behoove me to warn her of the impending delivery - not too early of course, but a couple days before. Or will that just give opportunity for more drama. I am unsure of this.

I think that I will not know exactly when the delivery will happen. Once the paperwork is delivered to the county by L, it is checked in, bounced around a couple departments and then scheduled for serving. It could be a week or as much as two weeks.

I agree that the kids being out of the house would be a good idea, school will be in session, so the would need to be able to get there.

When it is delivered to the house, likely I will be home first and see it on our door. I would assume by law that I cannot hold on to it and give it to her later.

Thanks for the dinner table tips - makes sense.