Yes, if you have been too accommodating and doing whatever it takes to keep him, that is a kind of pursuit. It is when they start to feel the consequences of their choices and don't like them that they reconsider. It is also a 180. It tells him, this is not the person I assumed and am not happy with. Gets them looking at you again rather than just projecting who they have come to think of you as onto you.
There are no guarantees and there are no one-sized fits all solutions, it is all based on trying something different from what has been working and then looking for little signs of change.
In some ways figuring out what those little baby-step signs are in your case. What would indicate to you that what you were trying was working? This is not that he comes back and commits to work on the M, as that is the end goal. What would be the first small signs, if repeated, that things are starting to move in the right direction?
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
