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[lonelee]

Asitis... thank you so much for stating this to me certainly some good advise that i will consider and reconsider and consider some more.

{You also want to be focusing on GAL. If he is mildly interested still, but thinks he can continue on the same path wo/ consequence, he won't change that. }

You are probably right i am not setting good boundaries or dealing him consequences by being too available. I do deserve to demand more respect from him don't I? I hadn't really thought of it in that way. even tho i'm sure it has been said here before.

{Drawing boundaries of what is acceptable and not acceptable to you is important so that you don't feel taken advantage of. }

{Will you still feel the same if he decides to leave for good? What if you find out he is sleeping with others and hasn't been telling you. How will you feel then?}

Hadn't actually thought of this at all ...i guess i'm still in the denial stage a little bit too?

{I understand you want to be accommodating and pleasing, thinking this will lure him back. Thinking that you will not stay put and let him continue to play his game and thinking that he might lose you will be what pulls him back}

Is this the reality? Is this the DB method? Is this from a mans perspective? Is this tried and true? I am not asking this sarcastically as it may sound that way here, i am honestly asking from where this advice originates?

It does sound like i have some more soul searching to do. thank you thank you ...

i do deserve respect i do deserve more...