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[asitis]

While you aren't going dark, you are doing what is advised which is not initiating contact. If he initiates, let it sit so you don't replay back right away, then decide whether you want to reply. Friendly, light, and brief. You are leaving him wanting more. If he wants to engage more, you can always be busy w/ plans, so you can't text now.

You also want to be focusing on GAL. If he is mildly interested still, but thinks he can continue on the same path wo/ consequence, he won't change that. Why should he? He's getting what he wants: freedom and the W on the side for his emotional and sexual needs. He may not be actively pursuing the A, but he has had an A & you don't know what else he is up to other than you don't think he is w/ that particular OW.

Drawing boundaries of what is acceptable and not acceptable to you is important so that you don't feel taken advantage of. Will you still feel the same if he decides to leave for good? What if you find out he is sleeping with others and hasn't been telling you. How will you feel then?

I understand you want to be accommodating and pleasing, thinking this will lure him back. Thinking that you will not stay put and let him continue to play his game and thinking that he might lose you will be what pulls him back.

You've started down that path, I'd just suggest less accommodation, more boundaries, and more GAL as your lure.