hold on! - 11

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Thanks eyetie - it took me a long time to stop doing things for her. But she still gets the advantage of things getting done by me. She knows that I don't do anything specifically for her - dinner happens whether she's there or not (as it should) if she shows up, she can eat - I can't really stop her (and don't want the kids to see me telling her that she can't eat the food or eat with us). It is always her reaction to not eat with us or storm off during dinner.

It sounds like you have a good handle on that though - thanks for checking in.