Toots, I have not read that book. Actually I have read very little about affairs or healing because I have been putting it out of my mind and focusing on myself, 180's and GAL.
We are in MC and the MC seems to be pro-affair if that is believable. I think it is because my H is/was so checked out he was borderline suicidal and the MC didn't want us to deal with anything too heavy and just let H vent and me suffer. But I think it backfired and made H feel more justified in clinging to the OW and that really wasn't doing him any good, as she is pretty messed up herself. Things are slowly improving. But we have not dealt with the A and I think it is time. I am an excellent avoider, but it doesn't really work because it always ends up coming out somehow.
