I read your update and i can see why you think it was a terrible interaction but in all honesty i think very little of it had anything to do with you.
Yes, there are always bits where if you had done things slightly differently then it might have been better and its good to learn from those (the if this was the other way round, how would I feel is a good test)
But reading that i think that interaction had way more to do with your W not feeling in control and in someway diminished in her parenting role. You're getting on with life and being a good parent and she is finding that when you share kids not everything is exactly how she wants it - that messes with her narrative which in turn causes friction, which leads to that common WAS/LBS shared narrative that any friction must be because the LBS' did something wrong.
The interaction may have felt terrible and there may be some better communication that could have taken place but actually from what you posted I would say 95%+ of the negativity there was all on her.
so the only question you really have to answer is whether you are comfortable with the way you conducted yourself?
Have a good evening.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
