Don't worry. I am not going to agree to ANY of it.
My heart is broken. Yes. But I am not allowing that to cloud my better judgement.
Just to clarify in the insurance policies. She would not be the beneficiary. She would be the trustee. The children would be the beneficiaries. The issue I have with the policies is that on her end, if she passes away, she wants her mother to be the trustee for her policy money. Which is in a word ridiculous. If she is the trustee in my policy than I must be the trustee on hers because if she passes, the children become my sole responsibility and as their father and as a responsible and good parent I have the right to determine what is best for my children. Not their grandmother on my wife's side. It's moronic.
I have a lot running through my mind about how to handle this.
One thing is how do I handle the interim: the time between now and the d being final. Do I be nice and allow her to stay in the home and continue with the vehicle situation until the d is final. Or do I go the opposite direction and move home and take the house and the car back?
If I do the hardline stance, it will impact my children because as I have stated before, she will take the children out of the home and leave.
