Hi Photoka, I'm sorry to hear that. It's a setback, but you can move forward from it. I just wondered whether you have read After the Affair by Shirley Glass? It popped into my head reading your post above. There is some good content on boundaries with 'friends' outside the M, and also on healing after the A.

It doesn't sound as though your H is offering some of the fundamentals that are important for healing - NC, transparency, and it is understandable that you are upset. Perhaps this is an opportunity for you both to reclarify boundaries, bottom line stuff and move forward from there. Without reading back, are you guys in MC together?

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus