Go out, get a life, immerse yourself in activities, do stuff for you, hiking helps, exercise helps, get yourself in shape, do dress nice, smell nice, look your best, start feeling good about yourself, start liking yourself, and detachment will come, a little at a time. There will still be triggers, but they will sting less and less as time progresses.
Do read Sandi's 37 rules, they're pure gold. And ask questions, drop by the forum to rant, ask questions, come here when you are feeling in the dumps. It does get better, it really does...
