Sorry you are here. I don't have much advise for you other than read everything they tell you, and listen to what everyone says. Its hard, but you won't find better support anywhere.
Me 44 H 46 3 DD 22, 18, 15 1 DS 2.5 M 10/1992 BD1 2/2014 BD 2 7/19/2014 Moved in with OW 7/20/2014