Hi Raws, sorry things are tough right now. Azzork has given you some good advice. Particularly in the early days, our situation can be overwhelming and all-consuming. The best thing to do is seek out activities that will give you some respite from thinking about everything - dwelling on the past, worrying about the future.
Staying in the moment can help. It may not come easily, but if you gently persist it will. Walking helped me, and meditation (try out the Headspace app - there's a free trial.) Reading self-help books and doing furniture restoration. Going to yoga class, being with friends.
It is lovely that you have buddies to go out to dinner with. In time, you'll be able to enjoy their company without spending so much time thinking about your sitch. It feels like that will never happen, but it will.
So try and really start to notice those things that help now, and mean that you don't think about your sitch for 5/10/15 minutes. Gravitate towards those things and do more of them, and enjoy the respite. Look after yourself. I came to realise that devoting so much of my headspace to my sitch was truly a waste of energy. That doesn't happen overnight, but I'm sure you'll get there too. Take care x
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