Again, the way things were are gone. Some of those things were bad habits and need to go. I'm still working on many of them. Old habits die hard. But there are good things that may or may not be over... I'm not 100% on that. I still love my husband. Yes, he's 'an alien' right now. But I also understand he is going through changes/MLC/whatever and he may not be this way forever. Many days there are glimmers of the good things. So I'm scared that I'll do the wrong thing. The wrong thing for me, the wrong thing for faith, the wrong thing for the marriage and my children.
On the one hand, he*wants* me to meet all his emotional needs and be his "dream girl". On the other hand, he has the OW (in fantasy at least) to do all that. So it feels precarious...
don't let the world or the wind blow you. Stand firm and stand fast.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
