You are a man of integrity and kindness U. It seems that it is your nature to ensure that you are a strong man for your wife and family. And to have your wife served in a way that keeps her intact says so much about you! You are a fine example of a man and father.
It is hard to read about how your wife speaks to you, as I feel the shame of my own behaviour toward my ex. I see in her behaviour as I do my own, some adolescent response to a situation that I felt was out of my control. The thought that I was the creator of the relationship I was then living in was beyond my insight, and I continued to create drama with each blaming statement that came out of my mouth.
I think about my ex now and how he responded to me, and I am beginning to think, that most of the time he was so blown away by the thought that I could think so poorly of him. I shut him down emotionally with my blame and anger. I think maybe, that you have done the same ,and wife has zero recognition of her role in this. However she is now frustrated by your lack emotional engagement. The dangling of the carrot reeks of the adolescent drama lover!
I hope more vets pop by and provide some advice about a kind way of having wife serve. I am so hopeful that this the beginning of some positive move forward for you and your family. ..................................................................... thanks for the comments about the cycling. I would hate for you to think I was being disrespectful of your situation or dismissive of the stress you must be under. I am of the opinion that we are not the sum total of this sad experience. And cycling seems to be your one releases your GAL.
Don't worry about the metric thing, I love it, it tickles me to read it. I love that you feel more able to ride further, increasing speed is good if distance is a worry. Interval training is good for improving speed and fitness.
I can see possibly a Matt black finish on your next bike? Very sexy. Do you name your bikes . My flore pink, black and white Avanti is called Madge. Named after madonna, as she is pretty much a Diva, And no I'm not a Lyra snob and at this stage, eight post last surgery I am far from being fit enough to be riding past you. I would be the one being dropped of the back of the bunch, riding along on my own at leisurely pace. Arriving at the coffee shop just as everyone else is getting back on their bikes and riding home.
I have rambled on. Hope you have had a good weekend. No spew jacket required for you, fingers crossed here in Auckland that you didn't need it.
